Oh- So -Subtle Self -Sabotage
“What you share you strengthen.”
~A Course In Miracles
In the spirit of the above quote, ask yourself this question: Could I be undermining my success by what I’m sharing with others?
Years ago, a coach gave me a powerful assignment. For 2 weeks, I was to simply observe my conversations, without changing a thing. Just notice what I talked about, the words I used, my typical reactions…you know, the stuff I was sharing with others.
What I saw was not pretty.
I had a habit of putting myself down…without even realizing it. I’d constantly dismiss my skills (“Oh, that’s no big thing”), deflect praise (“I thought I was awful”), and diminish my successes (“But I could’ve done so much better”).
What felt, to me, like humility, was in truth, a form of self sabotage. Every word of self depreciation put another dent in my self esteem. I was strengthening my sself-doubt…while destroying my self-confidence. No wonder I was struggling.
Are you doing something similar? Minimizing your achievements or underestimating your value?
I invite you to find out. Spend a few weeks simply watching what you talk about. Then write a comment below on what you observed.
In my next blog, I’ll share with you the things I did that made a huge difference.