Sweet (?) Surrender
You may have noticed. There’s been a big gap between my last blog and this one. What a perfect metaphor!!
For months now, I’ve been literally living in the Gap. Last December, I ended one phase of my life (my business partnership) but to date, haven’t begun the next phase (still being determined).
However, instead of forcing things into focus, I decided to consciously Surrender. Allow the future to unfold at its own pace, in its preferred direction.
This is not a tact I’d normally take. I’m a go-getter kind of gal. Surrender, to me, had negative connotations, something to be avoided by anyone with any ambition. Or at least that’s what I thought…
…until I began interviewing women who made millions. Making millions was my new goal, and the idea for my next book. In the course of those conversations, however, I stumbled on a startling revelation.
Every woman I interviewed experienced a sort of limbo, or ‘time-between,’ just before she started making millions. They all described spending somewhat lengthy periods in the unknown, tolerating (though not enjoying) the uncertainty, allowing things to fall apart without rushing to put them back together
I saw how these Time-Outs served an essential role in their eventual triumphs because they used them, as one woman put it, “to regroup and come back stronger.”
These Surrender Points were often precipitated by an outside event—anything from a painful loss to a life threatening illness—though sometimes, the women themselves deliberately chose to step off the grid. I much preferred to follow in the latter’s footsteps… surrender and regroup–by design, not default. It’s been quite a ride!
I intend to use my blog, at least for a bit, to explore this whole notion of surrender, share my experiences with you, and most of all, hear from those of you who’ve done something similar.
I’m beginning to think it’s time we stop avoiding the void.